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Hi, I’m Dan. >> I’m Nema. >> I’m Honduran American. >> I’m Parisian Canadian. >> I’m straight. >> I’m gay. >> I’m technically Catholic. >> I’m technically Muslim. >> We all carry different labels. But are we really that different? Or at the end of the day, are we all the same? Did you know every month over 45 million people search how to be happy on Google? There are millions of articles, books, blogs written on the topic of happiness.

We see celebrities on the cover of magazines happy and smiling at us. Social media is filled with people having a great time. But what is really happiness? Dan and I decided to hit the road and travel the world in the pursuit of understanding happiness. But first, let me ask you this.

Do you think happiness is dictated to us by our circumstances? Or do you think happiness is a choice? We literally have to leave to the airport in 20 minutes and we’re just now packing. camel backs. >> I’m ready. >> Okay, let’s go. We out. We are out and we are late. >> Uh, terminal 5, please stay on the same page.

If you can help us finding that aesthetic about women empowerment. Made it to the airport. Yes. Putting my rings on. >> I’m talking about water. This guy’s talking about liquor. Different priorities. Different priorities. >> We don’t need water. >> We don’t need that much water. Plus, >> during that, I drink water. >> I’m on camera. Act normal.

>> The second most important thing, >> a flower to recognize your bike. Dust cleaner. >> Double A batteries. Sleeping bag. Sleeping bag. >> Put me on my pillows. 249. >> So, it’s not Nemo’s first rodeo. It literally looks like we’re doing some sort of like carrying a dead body or some kind of drug.

Otherwise, we have to pay 500 bucks for them to clean the car. Bad situation. >> What up? >> I’m co-pilot Sufi. >> Ready? >> Yeah. >> We’re actually off driving. We are on our way. >> Oh, we almost hit all those cards. I can even sing that one song. >> Dark, dark, dark, dark. >> There are only a couple of cars on the road, so it’s actually kind of makes me feel good when I see a few other cars.

So, we’re not the only people on the road. Two years ago, I was at Burning Man and someone right in front of me ran into fire and he killed himself. That’s that’s not the best story to share for a project that is about happiness, but that’s actually what happened. And I saw it right in front of my face.

And I think the guy had a wife and two kids. But we have to pass this car. It’s going way too slow. Sucker. Hopefully it should be easy to get in. Sometime it can take like 10 hours, 12 hours just to get in when there are 60,000 people trying to get in. But now it shouldn’t be that bad. letting the family know I made it and I’m alive.

Heat. Heat. Bernie man is so visually spectacular. the landscapes, the art, the nudity, the fire. It’s very difficult for people to get beyond the visual drama of this place. But beyond the the visual splendor is this very significant exploration of ideology and human patterns that I

believe is the potential of the healing of our planet. I’ve been trained my whole life that the way to make myself happier was to accumulate, was to get, you know, prestige, stuff, material wealth, whatever. But the reality is that that target zone of me is so finite.

And in the western culture, like how many new phones can I get to make myself happy, ever? But when I started to get gifting and the idea that every single person that I encounter is an opportunity to make them happier and therefore make me happier. Suddenly you’ve got billions of opportunities to make yourself happier. >> Love you.

>> Love you. >> I love you all. >> It’s hard to explain. And it’s just like this this beautiful expression of of the our potential if we just let our hearts shine. I vividly remember my first night going out and looking out at sculptures and installations and these massive scales of art and asking the person who brought me there, who pays for all this stuff? Like, does our ticket price go towards paying these artists? And he was like, “Oh, no, no, no.

These these artists have been fundraising all year. They’re they they are striving and struggling for the opportunity to blow your mind. Like I I had never experienced anybody creating for the purpose of creating to make other people’s experience of the world better. And I think that when people see the the the they think drugfueled party, sure there’s drugfueled parties and there’s drugfueled parties happening in New York, but there’s also science happening in New York.

There’s also space exploration. There’s all sorts of things happening. And that’s what’s happening in Black Rock City. There’s everything you can imagine. If if if the most interesting people in the world were concentrated in one city for one week, that’s Black Rock City. And when all you notice is the visual pageantry of it, you’re missing the depth of what’s happening here.

The Burnman temple is something that is uh created for many people who do not have a traditional religious place in their lives. It is a place where it is a a raw wooden structure where people bring they write things to people that they’ve lost. They might put a picture up they’ve lost.

Um they might write a message to a part of themselves that they are mourning. And over the course of the week, thousands and thousands and thousands of people put their grief and their memories. And at the end of the week, after letting go, letting go, we burn it all. And tens of thousands of people’s pain just burns away.

And whatever meaning you assign to it, it doesn’t matter. It just it’s a it’s it’s it’s this collective expression of humanity that is so needed that it’s it’s it’s unique and it’s personal and it’s a treasure. Growing up, I did not get charity at all. I thought you did charitable acts because you’re supposed to or you’re supposed to like you you because of your blessings you owe it to people.

But that’s very like there’s just a negative feeling to it. It wasn’t until I experienced gifting that I realized that the idea of selfish service. And I think that’s one thing that Bernie man teaches you is that like we intentionally come to this place that is very hard to live and then what do we do? We add crazy obstacles on top of it.

Hey, we’re going to survive in the desert. Yeah. And we’re going to serve ice cream to people in the desert. >> How’s the ice cream? Everybody enjoying their ice cream? >> We can’t live this way year round because no one’s working. But in this experiment of this week of of giving, it gives you the opportunity to at least try on thought patterns for yourself, for your relationships, and for your relationship with the world that transform the way you the way you see who you are.

Burning Men really put life in perspective. Many people think happiness and pleasure are the same. But when we’re at Burning Man, we learn they’re entirely different. Pleasure is short-lived. Happiness is longived. Pleasure is taking. Happiness is giving. Unlike happiness, pleasure can be achieved with substance.

Pleasure is experienced alone and happiness is experienced in social groups. The extremes of pleasure can lead to addiction like sex, alcohol, and substances. But there’s no such thing as being addicted to too much happiness. Pleasure is dopamine. Happiness is serotonin. Funny enough, there’s one thing that brings serotonin down, and that’s dopamine.

So, while our society today confuses us regarding happiness with pleasure, the reality is the more pleasure you seek, the more unhappy you get. That was a burn. That was the burn. >> And look at all this dust. >> I know. This is what we’re going to look like when we’re old. >> Now, we literally have 50 miles before we run out of gas.

So, hopefully find a gas station in the desert. Used to >> made it to the gas station. Disney is pumping gas for the first time in like 10 years since he lived in New York. >> Seriously, that’s crazy. Which fun premium? >> You want to try? >> Where’s the butt? >> I I am. >> Oh, here you go. >> That was weird. >> Not my fault.

>> And I have service again, so I got to get to my phone. Reality checkin. >> 250 WhatsApp messages this guy has. >> Yeah. >> Yeah. >> What’s up? >> What’s up? What’s that? >> All right, back to New York and then plan out the rest of the the trips. >> Coming from Burning Man, I realized how important is human connection and love.

I mean, basics. I came out when I was 21. Pretty late, I think. But let’s say it wasn’t the easiest decision. But you know what? Surprisingly, it wasn’t as bad as I thought. As a matter of fact, I got closer to my brother, my mom, my dad, even all my friends became closer to me. I only dated one guy. Let’s call him Mr.

D. I was living in Vancouver. He was Irish living in London. So, we decided to move to New York to live together, but we broke up a week before moving. So, that’s that. Nothing crazy really. I, on the other hand, had a handful of serious relationships. Not all healthy. Some were crazy, but you live and you learn, you know.

I went from a high school sweetheart breaking my heart to an older lady. And let me tell you, what an experience, but nothing like the next relationship. She was crazy. From being chased and being threatened, literally having a gun pointed at me to a point that I had to escape at night until I met the one.

You really get to learn what you’re looking for and what you love when you go through these experiences. That’s when I met Andy, whom I proposed to on the beautiful island of Rotar. It’s taking me what, two years to make that decision. I’ve been thinking about it. She has no idea. For someone like me who has been single for such a long time now, I mean, it’s been 7 8 years.

Sometimes I question is love something that brings happiness or is sharing those moments, sharing those experiences with your friends, family. Is love something I can replace or I have to be in a relationship with one person if I truly want to be happy. To dive into the topic of love, we decided to interview a few people and see how they’re seeing love from different perspectives.

>> I paid for these, Dan. If you puncture them, you’re paying for them. >> My favorite show of the entire year was a show we did with Gary Newman. >> Gary would be on my board. >> Joining us now is M. Gary Newman, author of The Truth About Cheating, >> and New York Times bestselling author and Gary Newman.

>> How’d you come to decide you want to do it? >> So, we were working on a lot of corporate videos and promotional videos, >> but we thought like we should do something that is more rewarding that we actually fulfilling >> and we’re like happiness is always the project that it was like important to us and we both had some stuff in our life that it’s like yeah that that is a big topic for a lot of people that like looking for Okay.

>> Excellent. >> That point >> I’m like I’m not going to be like, >> “Hey, hey, hey, >> you see.” >> I mean, I’m a little bit animated when I talk. >> Me, too, but we’ll see what happens. >> All right. >> All right. All the are rolling. >> Okay. >> Are you rolling? >> After school, I met my first husband.

Uh we got married immediately after I divorced my first husband. I didn’t plan for it. It wasn’t like expected or anything. But 2 weeks after I left the apartment, I met my second husband. I’m not going to lie, I love being infatuated. I love being in love. I love the the feeling of I can’t wait to see that person and be with them.

You feel like you really want to spend the whole day with them. But I found it to be somewhat of a lie because not everything is perfect. You can experience a lot of disappointments in your life from love, right? Supposedly what people give you love. Um, after two marriages, you learn. Then when I met David 8 months after my previous relationship, so I went a bit wild, went out constantly, drank away my broken heart.

It was the Sunday I was drinking shots to try and get rid of my Saturday hangover that I met David. That’s true. So romantic. >> Yeah. The minute I saw him, he was looking over at me and he was with some people I know and uh my friends were looking at hey and I remember just going something’s going to happen here. I don’t know about you.

were kind of like thrown the eyes like oh yeah and then uh and he come over and he said and I had a thick bangs at the time and I thought I was like you know looking looking fresh and he comes over he’s like did anyone tell you that they cut your bangs terribly and then he walked off and I was like excuse me I was only later did he actually explain he was like I had to get something good to catch you at the gecko and I was like well that one worked cuz I was you get back here.

>> I think it’s mostly an age and a maturity thing. I don’t think it’s the relationship I’ve been with because I really been with wonderful men that treated me right and I’ve had great relationships. The maturity that he’s not going to be perfect and you’re not perfect.

I was sitting in the beach and my kids were in the water. They were all playing and I was just the beach was empty. It was just us and everyone was so happy and I was like this is just one of those times that I was just so appreciative to be in the moment. I was like look at how lucky I am. I was like this is insane.

I think people expect too much of themselves of the other person of life. They’re chasing. They’re struggling. They’re forcing it. They wanted so much that they’re going to settle and they’re going to s they’re going to be like on on on Tinder and Bumble and J Swipe and all of these apps and they’re going to date every day.

They’re going to struggle to find love. This is why I’m I’m in that stage of loving myself first because even if it goes down and even if we fall apart, I don’t let it I don’t let myself fall apart. How important in your opinion is being in a relationship, being in love? And I’m getting like almost 36.

So four years from now, I’m 40. I’m freaking out myself that I’m like, “That’s it. That’s it for me. >> My god. 16 years from now, you’re going to be 50.” >> Yeah. But I’m keep doing that. >> I got it. Yeah. >> How overall in in topic of happiness? >> Yeah. >> In your opinion, it’s important to be in love, be in a relationship.

>> I’m a fan of love. Okay. I’m a fan of relationships. I’ve been married to the same person, my first wife, uh going on 33 years and I love her dearly and it’s meant so much to my life. Um but there are so many people who uh fall in love um and they get married and they have miserable lives, right? uh 50% of people who get married get divorced in America and in research that I did um of the ones who remain married right uh 25% of them are unhappily married so this recipe concept that I just have to find somebody I’m going to get married fall in love and somehow I’m happy it’s really it’s really not the way it works we are we are naturally pushed toward couplehood because obviously our brains

are driving us toward a sense of meaning, purpose, and happiness. So I think the entire mistake that we’re all making is the pursuit of happiness because happiness is is not the thing that we should be looking to gain because when you do that you’re always going to be unhappy because the human condition is not such that you can be in a perpetual state of happiness.

Psychologically our brains just don’t work that way. So you will always be somewhat flawed and failed because you cannot maintain a state of happiness. So the real question is you know how do you find happiness without that being your pursuit. As we continued with our interviews about love and its relationship to happiness.

We decided to go and find someone who is in more of a unique situation. We decided to go to Bangkok, a city known for its night life, cultures, temples, and most famous for its lady boys for an opportunity to sit down and get to know them personally. >> All right, guys. Welcome to >> Jesus. The carryon. >> He’s like, “Oh, the carry on.

” He left it on the plane. >> Oh, me. >> Without his hat. >> He took his hat off. >> That was a serious moment. Take his hat off. I was looking for the other piece of my um immigration. You’re filming. So everything is in control. Uh we’re all good. Everything is good. >> And some of your shoes, I believe. >> Holy [ __ ] I mean, who cares about the drone but my shoes? >> There’s our suitcase.

>> Handy. Thank you so much. Thanks. >> Now we’ve got it all. >> Yeah. Yeah. Yeah. Oh [ __ ] >> Thank you. Yeah. So you It’s happening. We started our search by going to some

of the most famous spots for lady boys. But it wasn’t an easy task to find someone who is comfortable being interviewed on camera. As the night progressed, we ended up closing the bar and jumping on an unmarked cab. It was the only option left. We didn’t feel comfortable. And as soon as we got out to the main street, we got pulled over by cops.

We were searched. Nema and I were nervous. Lean was nervous. We didn’t feel comfortable at all. Unfortunately, we had to jump back in the cab. And as we were having a conversation with a cab driver, jokingly, I asked him if he knew any lady boys, his reply was, “Yes, a few actually.” And that’s how we met Kate.

>> Are you nervous? >> Don’t be. >> So, the whole project is about happiness. It’s not that we’re not going to portray you in any negative way or mean. It’s all about what connects us all. >> Good. or bad say okay already. >> Yeah. Yeah. >> Cannot do anything. Just say welcome. >> Have you ever felt like that you want to continue your operation? >> I want to be girl.

That’s my dream come to Thailand many year ago and I I see the new hair guy and like uh him be my boyfriend like a egg. But um him okay with what I be you know him don’t care like uh but then why I don’t do if I not meet him I do for a long time really but but I think I cannot do now like too late. >> Are you um looking for love? >> Uh before yes and now nobody love lady boy for Leo only come for lie that nobody love lady boy and I see already.

>> What do you say that? What do you think? No one can love a lady boy. >> No, nobody want spend time with lady boy or like them. He need to spend time with girl for his student something like that. But uh and try to find a new one or try to find a girl for Mary. But but that say oh love didn’t before young and stupid and believe and like now defend.

Were your family okay? >> Yeah, they really love me because like them think the world is like a people auntie lady boy but they need to love me more than everyone. >> Do they know what you do in Thailand? Your mom and sister and family. Uh I think sitter no but u not not not uh not all we call like uh I just try to lie I working bartender something like that not be like because my country is really poor and really small then why have to come here for five um how about your dad Are you in touch with your dad? >> Him don’t want me to be like this but him try to s tell me to be boy but I cannot. But I say if uh I try to tell him if I’m be guy but I’m really bad

person. What happened? But I’m be like this I’m nice person happy more. He say I can be whatever I want but just be nice person. Please don’t try to thinking all people the same like we different because some guy many guy is bad many girl bad many lady boy bad but not at all like but because we are the person when I help someone I like to do all the time morning early like I cannot go give money for buy box for like a same same another country come here and poor and something like that and we buy book for them die or them need help for give money for them over there. I do every time and I like to give money for another on the street like a really poor something like that. >> What’s the most important thing in life to you? >> Make myself happy first and after that

family only when I’m home like happy all the time. I don’t know why I’m ly lucky uh in my life boy but like a family eat love. >> Thank you. Very nice to meet you. Thank you so much again. >> Byebye. >> Thank you. >> Bye. But it’s good. We’re going to go get >> I’m still doing my hair though. I’m like, it’s 6:00 a.m.

Do I look got to look good? >> I was judging her prior to like going and meeting her. And then as soon as we started talking, there was so many things I could relate to. Like we’ve interviewed different people, but this to me was a little bit out of comfort zone of who I usually talk to and interact with >> and I realized that they have like a really deep way of thinking as well.

K was very family oriented. She was she was really feminised her to give her love because she they thought that no one was really going to love her >> as is. So they were really supportive and that’s so good. So positive for that person to come out with a positive attitude out of this. It’s all from their family support I believe.

So >> I want to ride a tuk tuk tuk. >> You’re wasting my man. Happy, happy, happy. >> Yes. >> Talking to Kate, ROF, Sufa, and Gary made one thing clear for us. Love is important to be happy in life. But love is not just about being in a traditional relationship with one person. It’s also about your relationship with friends, your community, loving yourself, and your family.

What if we could study people from the time that they were teenagers all the way into old age to see what really keeps people happy and healthy? We did that. The Harvard Study of Adult Development may be the longest study of adult life that’s ever been done. For 75 years, we’ve tracked the lives of 724 men.

The clearest message that we get from this 75 year study is this. Good relationships keep us happier and healthier. Period. It turns out that people who are more socially connected to family, to friends, to community are happier. They’re physically healthier and they live longer than people who are less well connected. And the sad fact is that at any given time more than one in five Americans will report that they’re lonely.

And we know that you can be lonely in a crowd and you can be lonely in a marriage. So the second big lesson that we learned is that it’s not just the number of friends you have and it’s not whether or not you’re in a committed relationship, but it’s the quality of your close relationships that matters.

>> It’s about our social relationships. It’s about our relationships with our friends, our community, our family, and of course with our significant others. Kate also brought up an important topic, judgment. It’s crazy how much judgment cloud our perspective. It really is an universal thing.

We judge people on daily basis. We judge people who look different than us, different color, religion. We see how judgment is driving movements. How people literally feeling pain simply based on human judgment. After Bangkok, we flew back to the United States and sat down with a few individuals to explore the topic of judgment and its relationship to happiness from racial, sexual, and religious perspective.

You know, as a kid, uh, I had a unique perspective and experience. Uh, my mom side disowned her because of biracial marriage. Um, and my dad, while super successful in his career, uh, his career might not have been the most legal or um, well adopted thing in the Midwest. So, he he had to go to prison for uh, different things with with with drugs and um, you know, having uh, different businesses uh, parlors and stuff like that.

I mean, I couldn’t stay over at friends houses when I was young because, you know, I was the bad bad black kid, which in actuality, um, it was the complete opposite, you know. >> So, well, when Tyler had started school at Rret University, he was a freshman and his roommate live streamed him in a sexual encounter with another man and then he posted about it on social media.

Um, Tyler made a terrible decision, one that we can never change or undo. He made a permanent decision to a temporary situation and on September 22nd, 2010, Tyler died by suicide. He was only 18 years old. And as much as Joe and I want to go back and change Tyler’s behaviors and actions, the reality was we can’t.

And it was at that point that I learned what true sadness truly was. as as a little kid like it was I mean I was called [ __ ] left and right like you know I’d seen parents not let me in the door uh at the house like you know if I wanted to come over play um you know my friends are like crying in the background like why can’t why can’t Dale come in or play or whatever like that >> I think in my darkest moments it was like having the absence of any feeling or joy and being in those initial years I couldn’t even wish people a happy birthday >> you know even with my mom um in black communities they didn’t accept her, you know, she was like this white [ __ ] from uh Iowa that people people didn’t like, you know. So, it goes on both sides. >> Really breaks my heart is I really believe that he was targeted simply because of his sexual orientation. >> Whatever happened with our family

structures and like you know with my dad and my mom and some of their their um experiences growing up like we had love, respect within our family. we were always protected and that was unconditional and that was never a question. >> I tr wasted a lot of time in the could have and should have and would have and whatifs.

Um >> now at this stage in my life um I just you know I I don’t feel the need to to protect anybody. A lot of obligations are gone but I’m I’m happy about everything that I’ve accomplished but also my story and that’s life. You know people got [ __ ] going on. Now I can embrace both the happiness and the sad and and I’ve learned to hold that tension.

And to me that’s the harmony. Um and to me that’s the peace because um even in those darkest hours I didn’t know what to pray for because what I wanted to pray for I couldn’t have. So I couldn’t have Tyler back cuz that was against physics and the law of nature and everything. But all I could hope for was peace.

And I didn’t even know what I was hoping for because then I learned that peace shalom means actually healing and it means harmony and it means blessings and I embraced all of those. I have received many blessings in my loss. >> While judgment might be out of our control, how we’re letting it defining and shaping our lives is up to us.

Dale decided to join the NFL and continued pursuing a career in the entertainment business. Jane Clemente decided to channel her pain and sorrows to make a difference by starting a Tyler Clemente Foundation in her son’s memory to stop cyber bullying both online and offline.

But if you think judgment is exclusive to certain races, sexualities, and religion, think again. They hit you, we hit them 10 times harder. Ain’t no bunch of talking. We coming out and we setting it first. You setting it first. You setting it first. >> 1 2 3 Do you think sometimes you surprise

people when they see you and they’re like, “Hey, so what do you do?” And >> it’s it’s a very I get all the weird reactions like >> you know what you either find people who are like oh my gosh that’s absolutely amazing or you’re like oh my god I can’t believe these women are like full on tackling each other.

I know I understand because even when you know I saw the LFL for the first couple times I was like man you know the uniform is just a big thing for everybody. So, when you see an image of a girl on the field and you see her playing in an itty bitty bikini, you know, your first reaction is like, why does she have to go out in that? Like, why can’t she wear normal uniforms or something like that? Why are you guys told that you have to be in these? And so, I mean, that’s that’s part of that growth and that change too that I’m kind of hoping for. >> Does that bother you when you see some of those negative comments? >> It does, but within like my growth, you know, it’s part of that thing of people are always going to have their opinions. the best thing you can do is go out and prove them wrong on the field. But like there’s there’s no reason to go and fight them with words or give them that energy and that time. And if they come and they see it and they their opinions are still the same, everybody, like I said, everybody has their own opinion. >> What do you think we can do as a team, you guys, media to change that person?

>> I think exactly what you’re doing. You’re bringing out the personal side of things. You’re bringing out, you know, who we are off the field, who we are outside of the uniforms. You’ve got football. Yes. That’s going to be a big part of your life. Yes, but there’s so much more to these women. I got married in 2012.

It was a rough marriage towards the end and I kind of let myself go because of some of the things that I was dealing with in that. Um, a lot of I guess mental hits were taken during that time and I, you know, I packed the weight on because I just wasn’t food was something that I was definitely like comforting myself with.

I I ended up in a really big hole mentally when I was already, you know, beforehand from my childhood dealing with those self-confidence issues. Taking that now on top of everything else, that put me at my all-time low. Um, I actually contemplated combining suicide when I was um, it was the week that he left and everything happened.

Um, I sat in the house with a gun in my lap and I contemplated it and it was just like, you know what? If if this is happening to me, then the world doesn’t need me. You know, there there was a little piece of me that said, you know, this is a restart. Your life’s not over. This is this is your time to build your life the way that you want to.

>> How How did you do that? >> My family 100%. My family. I don’t don’t want to cry on camera. Um but my little sister and my little brother for sure. um knowing that they love me and they care for me and that I was an influence on their life regardless of what I was going through and the fact that if I can make it through this downfall and they can see that as an example of no no matter what life throws at you, you can make it.

You know, to lead them was my biggest inspiration to keep going. You know, you have to be driven. You have to want it. And I really wanted to be somebody different than I was before. and I get to carry on that on in football now. >> Um I’m in college. I put myself back in um after my divorce to work towards a radiology degree.

And then I also am a server at a local restaurant. You know, with serving obviously I got to make a living, got to pay the bills to be able to continue to go to school um and do the things that I love such as football. You know, it it comes at a price. You got to you got to get the gym memberships.

You got to get the right food in your body. You got to get the right supplements going. This is not about getting paid for me. This is about letting me just be who I am. And passion is more like worthwhile to me than money. You can’t duplicate it. You can’t duplicate passion. You know what I mean? And if you can find something that lights that up inside of you, like don’t lose that. Don’t get rid of it.

Don’t walk away from it because you may never find it again. >> Okay? We can’t do nothing about what happened today except learn from it. Okay? So, let’s learn from it. We all in that together. We all want to learn from it. No. >> It’s either you either fight, you know, you may fall down, but you need to get back up, or you’re going to let her run you over.

You’re going to let life run you over and you better put up a fight because at the end of the day, that person’s not going to care. Heat. Heat. We did it. We got that W. So proud.

Proud mama. So excited. Follow your passion. When you follow your passion, you’re going to do your best and you’re going to perform to your top. And that’s it takes a lot of work, but it’s worth it. And I can see these guys just exploding with uh you know, new ventures in their lives because they’re following what they love and doing what they love.

>> Don’t learn like the importance of the inside and outside of taking care of yourself. um that is something that I wish I knew at a young age at school, you know, providing create people who don’t have to deal with low self-esteem and poor body image. So, I think that’s definitely, you know, teaching young girls, young men about the importance of taking care of your internal as much as you are taking care of your external.

And that also goes with taking care of your mental and your emotional state. I believe if I would have had some better, you know, opportunities in life to learn about what it means to take care of myself, you know, some of those things could have either been prevented or they wouldn’t have put me at such a low point.

Mental health is a big unspoken topic that affects our lives. But we generally refused to discuss it. When I was 25, I was questioning my life and I realized how many things were being pushed on me by society. I felt pressured to do things that didn’t agree with me. >> Are you sure that’s the path you want to go down? Go out.

>> You should study. I’m not sure how secure that >> work so hard. >> I didn’t want to chase money. I didn’t know if I like my career. I didn’t know if these relationships are what I’m looking for. If the friends I’m hanging out with I wanted to be associated with. I got sick and tired of the routine of 9 to5. I needed a way out.

Although mental health is a global concern, some countries prioritize their citizens happiness by providing tools and education that build a stronger, happier mindset. which took us to our next subject in the country where people call the kingdom of happiness, Bhutan. The only country on the planet with a ministry of happiness.

He needs to find him booze already. He’s desperate measures to find this quickly. Yeah, cuz we didn’t even know about Bhutan before Lean even brought it up. But minister had the most important thing I think right now. >> Oh, he’s here. He’s making it. >> We have to keep an eye on him. >> Almost left.

So, I just learned that uh the airport that we’re landing in, Bhutan, and only 18 pilots can land in it. And I think Nemo’s a little nervous cuz uh he doesn’t really like flying. >> Bring anything for hiking. That was quick. Just made it to Bhutan. Uh my right. >> Yay. We’re here in Bhutan. >> We arrived.

They gave us this white car which is a welcoming. It’s a That means we’re welcoming you with pure hearts, with pure heart. >> Yeah. >> Thank you. Thank you. Thank you. >> I’m a good friend of Russell. You’re not yet going to record. Thank you. >> Oh, which is >> Thank you. I’m going to do that. After a lot of traveling and having all

these long flights, it was really nice to arrive at a sanctuary. We couldn’t be in a better place to unwind. Very peaceful here. You can really feel a nice peaceful calming energy. And it’s really up high. Amazing. The only mall. The only mall. People come here because they have escalator and elevator.

Two people to dress new. That’s what it takes. >> After a couple of amazing days exploring Bhutan and spending more times with locals and getting to know the culture, we finally got a chance to sit down with the Secretary of Gross National Happiness, Commissioner. Of course, government intervention when we talk about creating conditions is always an indirect instrument because we literally can’t go making people happy or putting smiles on their face.

All we can do is things which will be which we see are important to them. We take care of it. So for instance, you must have heard Batana has the highest unclimbed mountains in the world today. Uh great economic opportunity but we don’t have that. Why? because communities living there consider that sacred and we feel that is them very important to their well-being.

So then we will not trample on their what priorities and just do it because we think it’ll bring us some other benefits. So I do not know whether this knowledge will literally bring a smile to their face but I’m quite sure if we actually went and allowed the mountains to be climbed it will bring unhappiness to their face.

So you would have to say that a policy of pursuing happiness can also be reflected in the absence of unnecessary suffering or unhappiness that the big elephant is the lack of focus on on teaching people understanding of how the mind works. Lord Buddha once said mind matters most. Everything is mind. Happiness is mind.

Sadness is mind. And in Buddhism we say there are four parts to the mind. The first part is consciousness. For instance you see something or you smell something. The consciousness registers that. Then the second part of the mind evaluates it. Good smell, bad smell. Based on that evaluation.

If it’s a positive evaluation, positive sensations flow through your body. That’s the third part. If it is something nice, then you will think something nice and do something nice. If it’s something not very nice, then you will think something unkind and do something unkind. So if things like this are taught as part of abilities that children forget children, everyone needs to make the most of their lives.

I do believe that people’s chance of finding joy, happiness, whatever you call will be much higher and this is powerful. So for instance uh I shared this with my daughter u about how the mind works and it helped her. Normally what would happen if someone calls her a nickname that she doesn’t like then she’s going to be distraught and going to be upset but after I told her about how the mind works then she realized that yes people can call me names but just because they saying something doesn’t make it true so if it’s not true why should I be affected so just simple activity of showing how these things works helps insulate them makes them more resilient and probably will enhance mental well-being A time is the most important resource

far more important than money for people in terms of finding joy and happiness and government policy. have a huge impact on this domain and yet no one thinks about this when we make policies and that’s why we find that that so many people in big cities spend a large chunk of their life commuting and commuting is proven to be a very low life enjoyment activity.

So why would you want to waste time which is nothing but your life on such a low life enjoyment activity. If they had it as part of their policym framework we probably would have designed urban spaces much better. A lot of thing that you’re saying I can relate to. I mean I live in New York yet alone. It’s like a big city and everyone feel lonely.

Just start from there and go because a lot of things you were saying I’m like well yeah that makes sense. That makes sense. Welcome to New York, city of dreams. The city with 18 millions people who came to New York to chase their dreams and achieve financial success. The Secretary of Gross National Happiness Commissioner of Bhutan brought up a good point.

How we use our time. What is it that we’re all chasing? Does money really worth the hassle? When I was 17, I started my video production company in Vancouver, Canada. I started working on promotional videos, corporate videos, Vancouver fashion week, Leo hours awards, red carpets. I started producing feature film, drama series, reality shows.

I started another business hosting high-end gallas. Then I moved to New York and opened up a branch of my video production company. Then had to start from scratch. Again, had to start working on promotional videos, corporate videos, partner up with a celebrity marketing advertising company. Started sponsoring charity gallas.

got my first retaining clients, got my second retaining clients, got my third retaining clients. When I look back, it’s been 16 years of non-stop working, one project after another. I always wonder, what is it more into life than achieving business goals, starting a new business, success? You know what I love the most about the topic of finance? If anyone we interviewed on the street right now, I’m like, “Oh, does money buy happiness?” Every single person going to say no.

No, I already know that money doesn’t buy happiness. But every single person, the majority of our days, we’re still spending time to buy make to make more money. >> Why? >> Yeah. >> Matt Britain is founder and CEO of MRY. MR Y rather founder and CEO Matt Britain is >> don’t employees Matt sometimes like the idea of having a hierarchy >> I love your people I want to give you kisses please welcome to the stage Matt Britain global powerhouse and author of bestselling book on Amazon’s business book list >> I don’t think that there’s a rule like I think there’s some people who aren’t career focused and they are all about exploration and they want to see as much of the world as possible and have as much amazing experience as possible and building a career career isn’t as

important or at least it isn’t at that moment. I think that’s fine if that’s what if if if that’s what makes somebody happy. There’s other people who are so focused on money and will do anything they can to make the most amount of money. I could have made a lot more money if I was just chasing the money, right? So what I do isn’t about chasing money.

I do what I love and I do what I’m passionate about and I happen to make money from it but that’s not really the end. I mean, that’s where that’s what my focus is. Other people want to really work hard, but it’s something that has nothing to do with money. Maybe they want to be a teacher. They want to be an artist and they just love painting.

So, I think different people are kind of um, you know, crafted and built differently. And I don’t think there’s really a path. What I do know is that when you’re in your 20s, you are in an opportunity in your life to take the most amount of risk. You don’t have kids, uh, likely. You don’t have a mortgage.

you can actually um you can afford to fail a lot easier when you’re in your 40s and if you have two kids and they’re in school and you have mortgage payments like it it’s harder to fail because other people are depending upon you and that’s just the fact. So some people take advantage of that during their 20s and they work incredibly hard and they take those risks and sometimes it does pay off later in life.

Other times, people look back at the 20s and say, “I could have traveled the world when I was young. I could have had these incredible experiences and now I’m too old, or I got sick and I can’t do it anymore.” So, I don’t think there’s a triedand-true path to life. And I don’t like how people kind of come off and say there is because I think everyone kind of has their own journey.

When I moved to New York, I needed my outlet and I realized it’s I’ve been like drying myself drying myself of this like adventure and just getting in this hustle. So, I created this retreat. Uh it was surfing, yoga, beer. We the things that I love to do, the things I do automatically every single day.

And I want to have memories. I want to have feelings that I could come back to instill in my body. I don’t want to sit. People do now with careers and certain jobs that they have. They sit there because they think that’s what they need to do. Things you own end up owning you. So, I’ve never been much of a materialist.

I’m, you know, money’s great. You I don’t have a large shoe collection. My closet is basically gifts. These are all gifts that I’ve had from friends and people have taken my classes and love me and stuff like that. with that. But so my point is that for me, my biggest satisfaction from those trips isn’t going to be like the financial like some trips we’ll make a lot of money, some trips we won’t make a lot of money.

It’s really just about the connections that I get to see happen. That’s the most fulfilling thing you could have. >> So let me ask you this question. When you see people that they’re not doing what they love, >> yeah, slap them a little bit, wake them up. My phrase is don’t think, just do. I think finances drives human beings to a certain point.

You’ll do things for money. At a certain point, it’s just enough is enough. You know, you you can’t pay somebody enough to do >> something that they don’t enjoy doing. >> Okay. Good. Okay. So, we’re just talking, right? So, don’t worry about what they’re saying. Just be you. >> Okay. How many people do you know that are at the law firm or whatever that they don’t like their job but they continue just because they think that’s the only option they have a lot >> because they have mortgage they have like expenses >> a lot in general lawyers um have the highest substance abuse and alcohol consumption in all professions um especially in New York City I think because of the hectic uh nature of the job and because we’re in client services and we are available 24 hours today. >> How important is honest answer? How important do you think is money in life and finance? >> Pretty important. >> Tell me a little bit about that.

>> Um I obviously like it’s difficult to say you know that like cliche money can’t buy happiness. I totally believe that. I don’t think everyone who’s got a certain amount of cash in their bank account is necessarily happy. But I think it can’t buy you happiness, but it can avoid pain and suffering.

Um, we all want financial security. We all want the best of the best. We want to live in the best apartments. We want to live in really great areas. We want to, you know, buy the best things and go to the nice nicest places. Obviously, all of that requires a certain societal concept called money. >> Hey, do you mind how some summer puff a cigarette there, please? Do you mind? >> How many years you lived in New York? I was in and out for almost about 20 something years.

Huh? >> 20 something years. >> Yeah. Uh living in New York. >> What were you doing in New York? >> I used to work there for the network for CBS. I used to do um I used to work at the mail clerk, you know. Yeah. When I wake up every day, I’m in good health. I’m not sick. The rest is irrelevant. That’s what I look forward to.

I don’t care how much money you have or whatever. Whatever you have, more power to you. me my read my book, you leave me alone. Simple as that, man. I don’t care what you have. You know, that’s my happiness. You know what I’m saying? >> Have you ever posted your failures on Instagram? >> Good question. >> If not, why not? >> I have my Yeah, you you know what? True.

I I can I do that. I have this problem. I preach and it’s hard to >> If you had a choice to change your job tomorrow, what would you do? something that I wake up every morning and I’m happy to do it and I I’m interested in doing it and I you know it’s not really a job. It’s my passion. >> What is your dream? If you had money, what would you do? >> What I like to see now, my goal is to I like to travel to the Far East >> to see the rest of the world. Oh yeah.

To see the rest of the world. [ __ ] As we dived into the topic of finance, we realized more than we thought that we can’t really find any clear answer to how relevant is finance to happiness. That’s why we decided to look deeper and found some research done by Harvard University. Based on the research conducted by Harvard University, overall happiness seems to rise with the income until about $75,000 US.

The relationship between the wealth and happiness flattens around $75,000 mark and then it peaks back up again around 8 million. The research suggests that the low mid-range millionaire people with 1.5 to 7.9 million are no different in terms of their reported happiness. Where we see the needle really move is with the super rich millionaires with a higher level of wealth over 8 million that lead into a bump of satisfaction.

It’s important to mention that only the top 1% net worth is over 8 million. So for the rest of us, 99% of the population, the level of happiness does not get affected between 75,000 to 8 million. Of course, not everyone have the luxury to do what they want to do or they love. But if 99% of people make 75,000 to 8 million, doesn’t it just make sense for a lot of people to focus on something that is more fulfilling? That’s why we decided to continue to look for our next subject.

And out of all places, we found her on social media, which is a whole another conversation when it comes to the topic of happiness. >> Nema and I found an influencer on Instagram that uses her platform to have a positive and inspiring impact on others. Meet Katie B. Happy. >> I’ve had a lot of anxiety recently, and I think of the opposite of anxiety is abundance.

>> After connecting with Katie on Instagram, we learned that she was hosting a retreat for cancer patients in Mexico. So, we decided to jump on the next flight to Tijuana to better understand the experiences she’s providing. We’re flying to Mexico City first to have an 8 hour layover. It’s the best flight we could get.

10-hour layover is the best flight we could get. >> Cheapest flight you could get. >> That’s why it was the That’s why sometimes the best doesn’t have to be the most expensive. It could be the cheapest. And we’re going to Tijuana to meet up with KDB. >> I’m I’m doing the boomerang. We flew to Mexico City first.

>> Well, we made it to Mexico. >> That’s my bat. >> After 10 hours layover in Mexico City, we jump on the second flight to Tijuana. I don’t know. >> We made it to Tijuana. >> Let’s get to the resort. It’s a 2-hour drive. And after nearly 3 hours, we finally made it to Ensanada where Katie is hosting a retreat for cancer patient.

>> Nemo, let’s go. We’re late. >> Yes. It’s just a hat. >> You shouldn’t miss it. >> [ __ ] mess. We woke up in u this beautiful beach. Only 4 hours. >> Not even. No, we have 4 hours of sleep. >> Yeah, we got 4 hours of sleep. And we’re going to Katie’s be yoga class. It’s amazingly beautiful over here.

We’re going to It’s actually really nice. After Katie’s mom got diagnosed with cancer, Katie at such a young age got to experience life and death matters which opened a whole new path for her. Prior to our interview with Katie, I think it’s fitting to show the interview I did with Dan a while back when he talked about his experience with his mom through cancer.

After my mother was diagnosed with cancer, I wasn’t really there for her. I was working on my own stuff. I wasn’t really that close to my family back then and I was kind of pushing myself further away from them. I had experienced already my mother being there for me. in the hospital. So, it’s it was something that I knew how scary it was not knowing if we’re going to wake up the next day.

She wasn’t spending the night there, but she was definitely going there on a weekly basis and going home to just my father and my sister. I could imagine how lonely she felt because as her son. I’ve always been the one to go to for like love and attention. While Katie and Dan share a very similar story, unfortunately, Katie’s mom didn’t survive cancer, which led Katie to channel her energy to better others experiences.

I was really scared and I couldn’t figure out the emotional state. Like, I was just too young to understand what I was feeling. And I was deeply pushing her away, especially when she lost her hair. I pretended like I was uh that I was afraid of the hospital. So, still, even as sick as she was, bald and small, I still didn’t know she was going to die, which is what it is what it is.

And they brought her home. You know, mom’s not waking up. Uh she’s her organs are slowly failing. And so it’s kind of time to say goodbye. And um when she passed away, her breath slowed to the point where it was really you couldn’t even tell she was breathing. It’d be like a minute and then it’s so trippy for me because you see someone like and as we’re sitting here together like I don’t notice that your chest is rising and falling.

That’s not something that we pay attention to. And when someone takes their last exhale, um, a lot of times they’ll sit straight up, which is pretty crazy. There’s like a rush of adrenaline that happens to somebody in their last moments. And it was like her soul flew out of her head. And in the yogic tradition, you know, they say we come into the world on an inhale as a baby.

When it’s born, it cries. And you leave on an exhale. And that’s it. And I like sat next to her body and touched it. And I was like, it’s so interesting that this is just a vessel. Literally, just something that’s holding her something else. And something kind of shifted in me where I was like, okay, if we come into the world on inhale, we die on an exhale.

Then everything else in between is for us to define. These breaths are just arbitrary. The breathing is this is the only thing that gives us life. The inhale and the exhale. And so what we do with that is boundless. Is up to us. It’s our choice. >> Welcome to the 18th annual trip for the car. >> My mom died 17 years ago.

This year was the 18th annual tube for the cause. Cathy’s tube for the cause. And my mom loved to drink Corors Light and pee at the same time in the Delaware River, the river that splits New Jersey and Pennsylvania. In her honor that year, we did that for the first time. There’s like 30 or 40 of us that went out and then we continue to do it as a fundraiser.

I also do a like a bar hop thing in San Diego where we do a little bit of spin, a little bit of yoga, a little bit of running, and then we drink afterwards. I’ll do like a big yoga class on the flight deck of the USS Midway. That’s another big fundraiser enables me to bring 20 cancer survivors on a healing weekend to figure out what’s next.

And so I raise money all year so that they can come for free and experience what’s next. Like when they leave on Sunday, they have a deeper appreciation for who they are now. to find out that I was diagnosed with cancer the first time was such a blow to I just couldn’t wrap my mind around how how could I have been taking all these measures eating healthy and keeping my stress low and being an athlete and exercising and I mean I didn’t microwave my food most of the time I didn’t eat out of plastic dishes or plastic water bottles and here suddenly I’m faced with this and um it It wasn’t. It was cancer. It was a big tumor and I had it in uh six bones.

Sorry, I need a tissue. I’m a late stage cancer patient. Um sorry, >> I don’t live in fear of it returning. Uh it’s already here. And so the mindset is very different. Um yeah. Um as I tell my kids, if you get mad, we have a lot to be mad about and upset about. Uh because my husband just passed of cancer as well.

Both of us were fairly young when this whole thing happened. We had cancer at the same time. And so my I’m dealing with not only the loss of my husband of 17 years and but the loss of my kid’s father and being a single parent, an only parent, and um there’s a lot there to have sadness. And as you can see, it’s I don’t know that that goes away.

But I’ve determined that my kids won’t be defined by sadness and grief and the things that have been taken away. We acknowledge it and I tell them if you need to go and yell and scream the f word in your pillow and get upset, you do it. But find find those times and limit them.

And then you look up and you go, “What do I have?” I mean, we live in this house that my husband uh made sure we had enough money to live on, and I remind my kids that that right there is so much to be thankful for. So much. And I I think I find happiness and gratitude. Some of the most miserable people I’ve ever met in my life have been ones that can’t see what they have and can’t take count of the things to be grateful for.

Keep looking for that that peace. I think there is no happiness if there is no peace within you. We’re allowed to be upset at things in life. If someone gets cancer, they can be upset that their body got cancer, their body failed them, per se. My face failed me, right? Like my bell’s pausy. You’re allowed to feel that.

And then you feel it, you recognize it, and you see it as entertainment and a learning tool, and then you move forward. Like there it is. Changed the channel. Saw it. Keep going. What’s the new normal? What’s the next step? >> You push out, pull in. Yes, Peggy. Until you start to go a little bit faster and you find a you find a little crazy.

>> So, I had acute myoid leukemia. I’ve had it twice. Never really realized at this point cuz I’m 22, you know. I’m not really thinking that I’m going to get cancer or anything like that. So, I didn’t think health thing was the biggest part of it. Oh, boy. What were you angry at? >> I was I was fuming like for the first for the especially the first treatment anger was actually a useful tool for me.

It helped me a lot because what I did was I saw life as the person being like [ __ ] you. I’m going to take everything away from you and you know you’re young. I’m going to take away your health. I’m going to take away you know your your looks. I’m going to take away everything that you thought you know you loved.

And that’s something I’ve learned through my time in martial arts as well is that anger is something that clouds your judgment that it feels great. It feels empowering. It feels righteous, but it’s it’s damaging to really only you. And that’s something that took me a little while.

I feel like I’d grown so much to the point where I was like, this is life was like to sign up with life is to sign up with suffering. But I was like, but with the suffering, with that bad, it also makes you realize how good the good really is. Like because of all that stuff, how I see life now, how beautiful and how much just the world glows is just um I think the biggest lesson I learned in all of this is we think we have control and it’s the biggest illusion that is so false and all we can do is try to show up as our best selves and surrender and trust. My only hidden guilt that I’m trying to deal with is the people that I know that I feel like deserves deserve this more

than I do. So I I and I want to say I’m very grateful and I want to always bring that back. >> I said I I I want to set up a will in case I die. you know, my father said, “Hold on. We’re not going to do any of that cuz you’re not you’re going to make it.” A brain tumor. And it happened when my son was three, three and a half months old.

Um, and my marriage didn’t survive it. Um, the one thing about cancer is you lose a lot of people. People don’t understand it. You know, that’s the that’s I think that’s one of the worst things about it. For a long time, I tried to chase happiness or wanted people to love me, to feel validated. And the more I chased those external things, the more I was empty inside.

And so I really just learned I needed to find that within myself. Katie is actually super inspirational and she she her her teachings and her everything that she does. Um it’s I think it’s impactful for anyone. I feel like um there needs to be more people in the world like Katie. I I don’t know I don’t know why or what.

I just know that I’m like yo the exhale breath that’s it and we’re done. And so you got to figure out how we have fun or live before you exhale that last time. We don’t none of us get out alive. And the less seriously we can take ourselves like that’s the secret. So I don’t know. I just whether that’s in the form of tequila shots or whether it’s in the form of sitting and authentically talking with people, I can’t take this life too seriously because I saw how it ends and it’s not that exciting.

As we were leaving Mexico, we were more appreciative of life. The sense of giving back was such a humbling experience. During the interview, Katie mentioned a few times when we leave this body which got Dan and I talking about life after death, how short this life is, God. So, we decided to dedicate our last chapter to the topic of religion and its relationship to happiness.

I used to be a believer as a kid. I used to pray for traffic to get to church late and it worked. I know, I know, not the best use of prayer. As I grew older, I lost my faith in organized religion. I just kept the core of it. I grew up not practicing any religions really. Believe it or not, I’ve only been to a mosque once or twice only to take photos.

Honestly, I don’t know. Maybe it’s like a Persian thing. A lot of Persians, at least the people I know, stay away from religions due to politics. I don’t know. Maybe after the Islamic Revolution, it seems that a lot of people blaming religion on what was happening to them. Personally, I always had question what’s the point of religion extremist if it caused more suffering than bringing people together.

>> That’s why we thought it’d be interesting to get a non-biased opinion from neither of our religions and its connection to individual happiness. He is coming. for talking about what connects religions, you have to talk about what disconnects. And I think what disconnects them is egos. I’ll call it religious arrogance.

You think you know what God wants and no one else does. And it’s either your way or the highway, which is why so many wars have been fought in the name of religion. If you’re representing God and God created the human being and the human race, we all have flaws. You and I and religious people as well.

So we inspire each other. teach by inspiration. Teach by education. Why is it through beheadings or through terrorism or through whatever extremism? And I’m not talking about just today’s Muslim extremism. I’m talking about Christian extremism or Jewish extremism as well. To me, it’s against the principle of God.

I just wanted to begin with what religion is not because I’ve struggled with religion. I grew up with religion. See, to me, religion can become can be very destructive and it can be very meaningful. So I’ll be the first to admit that religious selfishness unfortunately exists and even religious arrogance but it’s not religion in my words.

I would call that just another corporation >> nowadays it’s very popular just to be atheist like I don’t believe in anything. What’s the importance of religion in general in life? Of course the principle that we are here to serve a higher purpose is I think in common of all faiths. uh we’re here to be virtuous, kind people, not to be selfish and self-absorbed.

You’re either worshiping yourself or you’re worshiping something beyond you. So in the simple English, that’s what God represents. Something greater than you are. If you don’t accept this anything greater than you are, you tell me where that’s going to lead. If you don’t accept anything greater than you and I don’t accept anything greater than me, we will ultimately clash.

My self-interest will clash with yours. may well maybe create some rules, red lights, green lights to coexist. But ultimately, you’re a narcissist. I’m a narcissist. So for me, beyond anything, not even the religious concept of God, the idea that there’s something greater than you are. There’s some cause greater than you are.

Every human being is searching for something more than just survival. We’re searching for things. Look, look, just take uh the trillions of dollars that have been spent by NASA, NASA, just to satisfy one thing. What’s out there? The difference between the body and the soul where the body is it looks down and just satisfied with survival and the soul is always like a flame licking the sky and always looking upward to see what more is there and we human beings are not satisfied with the status quo. Everybody’s looking for something more. What is your life? What’s happening with your life today? You may be very happy but is this all there is to life? You know what’s the long-term plan? Do you have a vision for your plan? I may use a line like this. Every business needs a mission statement. Do you have a personal mission statement? And if a business can’t succeed without one, how can you? The secret to happiness is uh many people say if this and this happened to

my life, I’d also be happy. But the truth is the other way around. If you’re a happy person, this and this will happen in your life. You know, in other words, it’s not that you’re just on the receiving end, a victim or a beneficiary. You initiate. Happiness does not come to you. You have to bring it.

And when you behave in a happy way, then good things happen. Many people say good things happen, I’ll be happy. No, I would say they’ll be happy when you do good things. So, if you’re not, if you feel not happy, come initiate. Don’t wait for it to come to your that’s the victim’s language that doesn’t ever make somebody happy.

We live in a world of acquisitions. We think I can just click on Amazon, you know, one click, an hour later I get it delivered. People treat happiness like another commodity. You tell me or all the people you interview, tell me if I’m wrong. You’ll always see happiness is a result of what they did, not the cause of what they did.

It’s been a It’s been a ride for sure. Uh you probably guys heard that unfortunately I’ve relapsed. I’m going through the third third crack at leukemia. >> I didn’t I didn’t hear that. >> Oh, sorry. Not the best news. >> So, and to this point, I obviously haven’t done the third part of treatment, but I’ve spent round about 234 days in hospital. I was counting.

I’m [ __ ] breathing. That’s a [ __ ] win. Like I mean the amount of [ __ ] that I’ve been through experience life. I can go to the beach still. I can go I can experience the like the bloody wind. I can have a shower. All those little things to me are just huge wins. The idea of freedom is really how you perceive it.

And so that if you get to a point where you know you’re physically trapped, it’s kind of up to you whether you know you’re mentally trapped. And that’s kind of you put the chains on yourself. Oo. One year, thousands of miles, 18 deep interactions later, >> we didn’t find a perfect solution to happiness. >> As we listened, asked questions, laughed, and cried around the world.

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How would you live today? And I’m like, and you’ve got to figure out, you know, your why, your reason why you are here doing this. >> Life is struggle. I I don’t think life is about trying to avoid obstacles. feel sad really because I if I have something sill or sad I try to kick out get out get out like a try to find something new and make myself happy because I no time.

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